Valentine’s Day Gift Guides: The 5 Love Languages

As Valentine’s Day approaches, we’re looking to Gary Chapman’s New York Times bestselling The Five Love Languages as a guide for gifting.

Rachel Waldman

According to Chapman’s widely adopted theory, we all express and experience love in different ways, and when our loved ones speak our love language—through words, touch, service or gifts—we feel adored and understood. So, this Valentine’s Day, our gift to you is a female founder guide for using the love languages to give better, more meaningful gifts.

Physical Touch: 8 Gifts for the Sensualist

From silky lingerie to Swedish massage, female-founded goods for the person who relishes the tactile.

As the world keeps speeding up, and we are more and more tethered to our electronic devices, one of the first things to fall by the wayside is touch. For the one whose love language is physical touch, it’s all about taking the time to unplug and get tactile. That ting of pleasure can come from slipping into a silky slip dress or putting hand to clay, curling up in a new set of sheets or a very discreet vibrator that doubles as a charm necklace.

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Lingerie Set

Fleur Du Mal

Lingerie Set

A skimpy set that’s soft to the touch

Fleur Du Mal, $45

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Vesper Vibrator

Crave

Vesper Vibrator

Pleasure–any time, any place

Violet Grey, $69

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Linen Sheet Set

Parachute

Linen Sheet Set

If you build it they will come

Parachute Home, $169 - $189

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Sex Oil

Province Apothecary

Sex Oil

The best for every part of the body

Province Apothecary, $18

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Fin Vibrator

Dame

Fin Vibrator

For a stimulating vibrating touch

Dame, $75

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Truth or Dare Cards

Unbound

Truth or Dare Cards

We double dare you

Unbound Babes, $9

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Ladies Come First Sex Class

The V Club

Ladies Come First Sex Class

Study up on sex techniques

The V Club, Price Upon Request

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Nirvana Stress Relief Massage

Naturopathica

Nirvana Stress Relief Massage

Sometimes we all need the touch of a seasoned masseuse

Naturopathica, $245

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Receiving Gifts: Classic Gifts to Make Your Partner Feel Cared For

From flowers and chocolates to jewelry and lingerie, thoughtful takes on traditional Valentine’s Day presents.

“Don’t mistake this love language for materialism,” says Chapman. “The receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift.” What that means: put in the effort to find something that speaks to your loved ones’ likes–whether it’s artisanal chocolates delivered to his or her desk or a beautiful upgrade to their bar cart. Below, 11 presents that spark joy and show love.

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Original Rise Thong Rose Bouquet

Hanky Panky

Original Rise Thong Rose Bouquet

Say ‘I love you’ with a lingerie bouquet

Hanky Panky, $150

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Sweet Nothing Bracelet

Catbird

Sweet Nothing Bracelet

The forever (and affordable) welded testament of love

Catbird NYC, $94

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Truffle Box

Ritual Chocolate

Truffle Box

Sweet and chic chocolates

Ritual Chocolate, $22

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10% off with promo code thehelm

Signature Leather Strap Watch

Skagen

Signature Leather Strap Watch

Buy for him, steal back later

Nordstrom, $165

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Juliet Vessel #5

Anna Karlin

Juliet Vessel #5

An artful vessel for vinegar or vodka––or simply decoration

Moda Operandi, $110

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Succulent Mini Trio

The Sill

Succulent Mini Trio

The gift of green

The Sill, $86

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Original Art

Sarah Woods

Original Art

A beautiful addition to any gallery wall

Studio 1850, £155.00

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10% off with promo code THEHELM

Slip Dress

Araks

Slip Dress

Slip into something more silky

Matches Fashion, $257

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Gabriela Bangle

Agmes

Gabriela Bangle

Cuff love

Barneys, $490

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Seasonal Signature Flowers

Fox Fodder Farm

Seasonal Signature Flowers

When in doubt, a beautiful bouquet

Fox Fodder Farm, $155

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10% off a Medium Seasonal Bouquet with code THEHELM

Sex At Dawn

Cacilda Jetha

Sex At Dawn

How we mate, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships

Books A Million, $17

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Words of Affirmation: 9 Gifts That Say “I Love You”

Because sometimes the right card or cashmere, pendant or pillow speak louder than words.

If you are with someone whose love language is words of affirmation, and you don’t know where to begin, remember all your partner really wants is for you to express yourself. Surely, those three little words are great, but they’ll really go a long way if you follow them up with why. Whether it’s a friend or a life partner, there’s no better time to articulate your love for them–in a card or on a sweater–with words that will make him or her feel appreciated.

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All About Love

bell hooks

All About Love

Heart skips a beat with a book about love

Books A Million, $16

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Completely In Love With You Card

Moglea

Completely In Love With You Card

A love letter goes a long way

Of A Kind, $5

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Objet Pendant

J.Hannah

Objet Pendant

Proclaim your love privately

J. Hannah Jewelry, $320

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Close To My Heart Pillow

Bella Freud

Close To My Heart Pillow

Pillow talk

Matches Fashion, $171

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125,000 Ways to Say I Love You

Pia Frey

125,000 Ways to Say I Love You

All the ways to say those three little words

Books A Million, $16

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Love Is The Message Sweater

Lingua Franca

Love Is The Message Sweater

Put your heart on her sleeve

Net-A-Porter, $380

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Custom Bouquet

Emily Thompson

Custom Bouquet

Build a bouquet of pink roses for perfect happiness, dark roses for thankfulness, red tulips for declaration of love, and pink tulips for care

Emily Thompson Flowers, Price Upon Request

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Tattoo

Fleur Noire Tattoo

Tattoo

Put it in ink

Fleur Noire Tattoo, Price Upon Request

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B4 Bancroft Cuff

Alice Made This

B4 Bancroft Cuff

Engrave a sweet saying on his everyday cuff

Mr Porter, $330

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Acts of Service: 11 Ways to Make Your Love’s Life a Little Easier

Gift your Valentine acts of service by making plans and taking care of business.

For the person who appreciates acts of service as a way to the heart, ask yourself what you can do to make his or her life a little easier—or a little more decadent. That could mean drawing a CBD-infused bath or taking over a project that they’ve been meaning to do, like organizing all those old photos. Perhaps it’s a surprise photoshoot. When in doubt, give your partner an afternoon to themselves with a certificate to recharge with a really great message at Chill House.

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Private Chef, The Culinistas, $50 off private chef services with code HELM50

The Culinistas

Private Chef, The Culinistas, $50 off private chef services with code HELM50

The Culinistas, Price Upon Request

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CBD Infused Bath Salts

Vertly

CBD Infused Bath Salts

Draw a CBD bath

Credo Beauty, $29

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Actually Curious Card Game

Curiosity Lab

Actually Curious Card Game

A card game that gets you talking about the things that matter most

Amazon, $20

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Personal Organization Service

Dwellwell

Personal Organization Service

Give the gift of organization

Dwellwell NYC, Price Upon Request

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Hotel Stay

El Cosmico Hotel

Hotel Stay

Book a beautiful backdrop for one-on-one time

Trip Advisor, Price Upon Request

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A Photoshoot

Sharon Schuster Photography

A Photoshoot

Snap to it with a photo session

Price Upon Request

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10% off with promo code THEHELM

Future of Sex Podcast

Bryony Cole

Future of Sex Podcast

An explorative conversation on sex and tech

iTunes, Free

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Personalized Photo Album

Tweed Wolf

Personalized Photo Album

Make a photo album of your memories

Tweed Wolf, Price Upon Request

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10% off with promo code THEHELM

Fresh Manicure

Chill House

Fresh Manicure

Make an appointment for a mani/pedi

Chill House, $15

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Signature Meditation Class

Mndfl Meditation

Signature Meditation Class

The gift of a much-needed break

Mndfl Meditation, $18-25

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Human Design Partnership Session

Erin Claire Jones

Human Design Partnership Session

Perhaps the greatest act of service is self-discovery

Erin Claire Jones, Price Upon Request

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Quality Time: The Luxury of Time

Sometimes the ultimate gift is more shared moments together.

When it comes to quality time, what your special someone is looking for is, well, more of you. It’s as simple as setting aside time for a cooking class at Haven’s Kitchen, dancing together at Forward Space, or planning your next getaway with help from the travel experts at Indagare.

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Travel Service

Indagare

Travel Service

Plan some out-of-town time

Indagare, $395

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Tier 3 Membership with a complimentary 30-min travel vision consultation using promo code THEHELM

Cooking Class

Haven's Kitchen

Cooking Class

Share in a secret recipe

Haven's Kitchen, Price Upon Request

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Women of Color Retreats

Satya X

Women of Color Retreats

Quality girl time

Women of Color Retreats, $1,888

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Handwoven Picnic Tote

Sea & Grass

Handwoven Picnic Tote

Pack a picnic and head to the park

Food52, $78-$120

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TryNight Pottery Class

Gasworks NYC

TryNight Pottery Class

Try your hand at ceramics

Gasworks NYC, $75

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Forward Dance Class

Forward Space

Forward Dance Class

Go dancing!

Forward Space, $34

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